Sponsoring Thought, The
Inner Critic,
Success and Failure
by David Cameron Gikandi
There is such a thing as the thought
behind the thought. This thought behind the thought is often hidden from us. It
is the sponsoring thought from which the conscious thoughts arise.
The
sponsoring thought has a large effect on your life. It is responsible for much
of the mysterious events that you end up calling unexpected good fortune, luck,
and of course problems and disasters. Especially the recurring misfortunes that
you just can't seem to explain. Just because you are not aware of your
sponsoring thought does not mean it does not work in your life to create
conditions and events around you.
Let us now journey into the secret
world of the sponsoring thought and it's equally hidden counterpart the Inner
Critic. At the end of this journey, you will have moved a step further towards
understanding and creating success in your life.
In a sense, the
sponsoring thought can also be called the disowned underlying belief system
developed over the years as you faced various life situations and pivotal people
in your life. Let us look at an example of a goal you may have and the
sponsoring thought that brings up that goal.
All sponsoring thoughts are of two
natures only: love and fear. There is no other alternative.
Depending on their
nature, you definitely end up with very different results. They key, therefore,
is to
look at their nature and if it is fear based, transform that fear and then
go for the goal if you still wish to go for it. You have to fix the foundation
first if you wish to have a strong and stable building.
The nature of the
sponsoring thought is the foundation. Ok, let us begin.
1. Pick a goal that you have wished to accomplish. For our example, we shall
assume that you wish to buy a new BMW X5, those new four wheel drive BMWs. Nice,
aren't they? You can pick any goal – it could be things you wish to get, people
you wish to date, a health standard you wish to attain, a job task you wish to
accomplish – anything. The process is the same.
2. Relax yourself totally
and
drop the mental noise that you usually have in your head. Just
relax and let go of all concerns.
3. Imagine yourself living your life after you have achieved your
goals. See yourself doing whatever you would do with your new BMW X5.
Fantasize
for a few minutes. Notice the attitude you would have, if it changes, the way
you would talk to people about your new car, the differences it would make, and
so on. Be honest.
4. You are now going to have a
private conversation in
your head. You know that voice in your head that always criticizes you? Most
people think the Inner Critic is an inseparable part of them. It is not. At
birth you did not have it. It is that separate voice that says 'but you can't do
that' or 'you are not dressed well for that' or 'what will they say when you do
that', and so on.
This Inner Critic has a mind of its own. It is built over the
years as you face situations in your life that scared you or people that
criticized you and made you feel worthless. Even minor events have a great
effect – like being rejected buy a beautiful girl in school may have contributed
greatly to your Inner Critic.
The development and dimensions of our Inner
Critics is too large a subject to cover in this article but all you need for now
is to know that
the critic started out as a way to protect you from getting into
situations that you interpreted as threatening in the past, but it grows to
completely take over your life and, in extreme cases, paralyze and depress a
person.
All inner critics come from a point of fear and feelings of low
self-worth. Now, separate yourself from your Inner Critic and ask it this
question: 'Why do you think I should have that BMW?' Listen to whatever answer
comes back. Your mind will just answer you in that familiar voice that is always
in your head. Don't block it. Drop your pride. No one else is listening.
5. At first, you will probably hear an answer that goes something like this:
'Well, it is a great car and you will enjoy it. Just get it because you love
it.' For a very small minority of people on earth, this would be enough. These
are the few people with hardly any remaining fear in them, all past cleared, and
I must tell you that right now that number is probably less than 2% of our
population. For these people, their sponsoring thought is simply a love for good
cars and pleasurable driving, a love for a luxurious life. For the rest, another
'why' is needed.
Ask your critic again. 'Don't you thing my present car is good
enough for me? What do you think the new one will do for my image that you feel
I really need fixed? Tell me honestly, where do you think I am screwing up that
you feel this BMW will help me get better?' Ask your Inner Critic questions that
deal with self-worth and fear issues.
6. The answer will probably come
out more critical now, something like: 'Well, your present car is OK but you get
no respect in that. And people in your job are driving better cars. They think
you are not worth much. What else would they think? Have you noticed how they
look at you? You have to make a statement and right now you are not making one.
You look little. And what do you think your clients think of you?
7. Keep
going: 'But why are you so afraid of me being laughed at and all that? What in
the past did I do that has annoyed you so much that I have to meet these
standards you are setting up for me?' The answer may come back as something
like: 'Because ever since you were a child you embarrassed us with your
performance and appearance. We felt belittled every time those kids in school
ignored us because we did not fit. We were always the smaller side show.
This
has to stop. It cannot happen again…'
8. Ask: 'How would you feel if it
happened again?'See? What you are doing now is
becoming conscious of
your inner critic instead of being run by it. You then quiz it until you get to
it's bottom line motivators. It is always a reaction to a fear that was built in
your childhood by criticism from your parents, teachers, peers, or by an event
that you judged important to you in which you feel you 'failed'. These
situations and criticisms can leave a scar, making you feel unworthy and
fearful.
Over the years, your personality develops an Inner Critic that fights
to ensure that you will not get into such a situation again.
Unfortunately, the
Inner Critic goes too far and builds even more fear on top of the original, all
in an attempt to avoid the original situation. And because it influences your
thoughts,
it creates your life situations and conditions.
We become what we
think about. All creations that arise out of fear are doomed to fall apart
sooner or later. And the creator of things from fear always lives in fear of
loosing them. They bring no lasting comfort. They even cause addition,
workaholism, and stress. Worst of all, because the fear has not been healed, it
keeps bringing up recurring painful events and a person keeps asking
'why does
this always seem to happen to me!'
The solution is to heal the original cause, to turn the sponsoring thought
from fear into love. In summary, the way you heal is simply to do the opposite
of what you have always been doing. You have been denying and hiding these dark
sides of yourself all your life. They have been your disowned selves, your
shadows.
Bring them to the light now. Own them, embrace them, watch them
objectively with a smile. They brought you certain gifts.
See what they are. For
example, a person who was ridiculed for laziness may have learnt how to be
industrious simply to prove themselves. Now is the time to embrace your 'hated'
lazy side and let it be. It gave you a desire to industry. Now let it teach you
to relax.
Embrace the shadow side. It is still you. Accept it and love it just
as you love the light side. And in a process that you cannot explain in words,
you will feel free, empowered and lighter! What you resist persists, what you
bring to the light transforms and releases you.
The process is actually done for
you by your higher mind.
Once you are all clear, you can now see whether
you still wish to pursue your goal. Sometimes you may find that you no longer
find it meaningful. If you still wish to pursue it, you can now do it from a
position of love and nothing will block you for you will no longer have
fear-based past issues coming up to sabotage your progress.
For those of
you who are skeptical about all this, here is a little scientific evidence. You
must have heard that people use, on average, only 10% of their brain. Science
has now discovered that DNA strands have 64 codes but only 20 or so are in use
on average. Now here is the funny thing. When a person is in fear and stress,
their brain usage actually falls and less of the DNA nodes open up for use.
When
coming from a point of love (meaning acceptance, joy, no stress, trusting in the
loving and safe nature of the universe), their vibration rises and opens up more
brainpower and DNA nodes. This is not too surprising when you consider the fact
that a person's power (at work, in life, in health, etc) rises when they raise
their knowledge and love and falls when they don't. If you wish to learn more
about the above processes and wealth consciousness, please see
www.imagesofone.com.
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Article written by David Cameron Gikandi, CEO
ImagesOfOne.com and author of A Happy Pocket Full of Money:
Your Quantum Leap into the Understanding, Having and Enjoying of Immense Wealth
and Happiness. This and titles such as Think and Grow Rich, As A Man Thinketh,
The Essays of Ralph Waldo Emerson and more are available for download at
http://www.ImagesOfOne.com.
